Sex Sells Pt. 2

So last week we talked about the dangers of sexual impurity and how it leads to consequences and the joy it can bring by fighting for purity and following Christ. What I want you to know is that last week was not meant to make you feel like a piece of crap if you have struggled in this area of your life, it was meant to give you hope and be challenged to fight to live a life that will not lead to emptiness and pain. Let's face it, no one is perfect, we all have messed up in some way or another, now let's work on standing up, facing those struggles and being victorious over them, in Christ, and ONLY in Christ, can we be victorious. This week I'm going to be transparent with you, yup, you get to know about my past and the pain I've gone through and others when I was not fighting for purity.

It all started in middle school, now most of you can agree, that's when we started noticing the opposite sex right? Well, it certainly was for me, and I was introduced to the infamous porn industry from a fellow student. You guessed correctly, I liked it. Being so young, I didn't know the damage that was going to cause. Eventually I realized I was addicted to it, bondage. Years later in high school, junior year, while still being highly addicted to pornography, I got myself a girlfriend. At age 18, I lost my virginity to her. Oh the nightmare that caused. I'm going to say this with no apologies, sex outside of marriage will screw with your head and your heart. It causes jealousy, insecurities, selfishness, trust issues and a lot more. She always accused me of cheating on her, which caused me to wonder about her too, whether or not she was cheating. I wanted all of my time to be with her (selfish). Leaving out family and friends, which I needed time with them as well. What was the outcome of that relationship? I broke up with her. Right after that, I accepted Jesus into my life and to be my Lord and Savior. But I eventually walked away, partially due to alcohol and drugs, but the thing that hindered my relationship with Jesus? My second girlfriend and I became sexually active as well. Yup, I gave God the middle finger. That's what we do when we disobey His word and commands. We say our way is better and we don't need You. That relationship ended years later, after an incident of us breaking up, then talked about how we wanted to work things out, she still loved me and wanted to be with me, but then come to find she slept with someone else later that week. Talk about having some major trust issues after that.

One girl I was "talking too" for a couple months had told me all of these really sweet things, she wanted to be with me, I was such an amazing guy, blah blah blah. Well needless to say she had gotten me to sleep with her that evening. What happened the next day? She tells me she's moving away to be with her ex boyfriend. I was used. I was tricked. I was devastated. You don't hear guys give that story too much, about how they were used by a female in that manner, but it happened to me. The pain fealt unbearable.

Another lady came along and we went from 0-120mph in about 3 seconds. Translate that into we met, liked each other and hit the throttle on the relationship. Oh, just so you know, I still struggled with pornography at this point, this was late 2010. I was basically living with her a month into the relationship. If that's you, you should probably get out now, and don't tell me that you aren't sleeping together, which there really isn't a whole lot of sleeping going on. Don't lie, no two attractive people can lay next to each other every night and nothing happen. I gave that ridiculous lie too. What a fool I was to think people would believe that crap. Anyways, since we went full throttle into the relationship, it wasnt' long before that relationship ended. See the trend here? There are occasions where people will sleep together and still get married, but why risk the pain and all of the emotional and mental confusion? Pornography, I had to tell someone about that, you CANNOT pray that away, get help, someone who you can trust, a Christian mentor is the best. Pornography destroys the image of females, they have hearts and souls and you look at them as a piece of meat at best. It's wrong and it's lustful. Get help, that means leave your pride in the trash can, take a hit on your reputation and let someone help you break the bondage. I can't tell you the amount of blessings God will give you on top of what you already have by fighting for purity (1 Cor 6:13-15). Put Christ at the center of your life, and everything else falls into place. The reason for me telling you about my past is so that you can see that my ways, didn't work. Pleasing myself was the ultimate goal before I followed Christ, pretty obvious isn't? The emotional and mental damage it caused and the physical consequences it could've caused is too great. I've been hurt greatly in the past because of those decisions I made. I was transparent with you to encourage YOU to do the same, get help, confess and change. It IS worth it, I'm experiencing the rewards as I type this. Fight for the joyful life that Jesus Christ wants us to have THROUGH HIM!!! My prayer is that you understand that what I went through was not the best, it's NOT God's best for us.

I hope you enjoyed the mini series on "Sex Sells", let's get some feedback shall we? Next week is a new topic, it will be on depression. Have a blessed week!!!